Episode: 184
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Episode Summary:
On today’s episode I chat with Jory Agate, IFS trainer, Approved IFS Clinical Consultant, and IFS Certified Therapist. We explore two of Jory’s favorite topics and areas of expertise: rupture and repair, and grief. She will be offering a two-day workshop on grief through Life Architect in November 15 and 16 called IFS is Grief Work: Healing Unattended Losses.
Key Takeaways:
Rupture and repair are natural parts of all relationships
IFS offers a path to engage with parts that arise during conflict
Repair involves accountability and listening rather than just apologizing
The importance of centering the impacted person’s needs in the repair process
Grief work is a core component of IFS
- Self does not get overwhelmed; it can be with anything
How can we hold space for our grief without feeling overwhelmed?
“When we can acknowledge our exiles and help protectors relax, we open the door to real healing.”
Grieving unmet needs or past hurts allows us to unburden exiles and foster self-compassion.
My Favorite Quote:
“Rupture is inevitable, but repair is a choice that builds stronger relationships. When we show up with self-energy, we’re more likely to meet others’ self-energy in return.” – Jory Agate
About Jory Agate:
Jory Agate is a certified IFS trainer and therapist based in Cambridge, Massachusetts. With a background in parish ministry, Jory brings her commitment to healing, relationships, and community into her IFS practice and teaching.
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Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is an IFS Level 1 practitioner.
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.
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