Episode: 106
On today’s podcast I chat with Kim Schneiderman, MSW, LCSW.
Kim is an “All but paperwork and a video” away from IFS Certification. She is a psychotherapist with the Psychotherapy and Spirituality Institute (PSI) in Manhattan. She is also the author of “Step Out of Your Story: Writing Exercises to Reframe and Transform Your Life” and the Novel Perspective blog on Psychology Today.
She has taught self-discovery writing workshops at the New York Open Center, the 92nd Street Y, the JCC of Manhattan, Vassar College, Sivananda Yoga Ashram in the Bahamas, among other venues, and has lectured on the spirituality of crisis and conflict at NYU’s Post-Graduate certificate program in Social Work and Spiritual Care and PSI’s Summer Certificate Program in Spiritually Informed Psychotherapies.
We chat about her self-paced online DailyOm course, Reframing Your Narrative About Challenging Relationships offers perspective-bending writing exercises including IFS-inspired dialogues with triggered parts. You can find this here:
Here are the three articles we talk about:
The Self, Lost and Found | Psychology Today
Your Anger Knows Your Worth | Psychology Today
Believe It or Not, Your Anxiety Loves You | Psychology Today
And her psych today page: The Novel Perspective | Psychology Today
Kim’s website:
Kim Schneiderman: Psychotherapist, Author, Columnist, Writing Workshops (stepoutofyourstory.com)
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My name is Jeannie Austin, I am very interested in individual therapy. I left a review on the podcast, but did leave anyway to contact me. I just love The One Inside podcast. There are a couple of episodes Ive listened to repeatedly and this is one them. The other one talks about IFS and Dissociative disorders. Because of my particular journey of diagostical misfortune, which started in 1989. In my first drug & alcohol treatment which then found me in woman’s treatment being vaugely suggestive that I had been abused sexually, physically and emotionally which lrd me to becoming an polyaddicted alkie w/o insure to pay for 3 days of inner child work. It was inferred that I needed to get sober & wait at least 5 years to look at my ‘other’ issues. I stayed sober about 2 weeks. I had a very long road of repeated failure to get sober and to stay away from abusets. I was 28 in 1989 and I am now 58. After being diagnosed with PTSD around 14 times, along with bi polar, borderline personality disorder, depression, Adult onset of ADD, Meth induced Pychosis, Self harming, Habitual Chronic Relasper, learned helpness & attachment disorder of which I was over mededicated for 25 yeats. Finally, after 25 years I sought treatment of something other than 12 step treatments which did not effectively help me with my persistant symptoms of nightmares, love addiction, attraction to narcessitic, pychopathic men, crimal in nature, a continual downwatd spiral of degradation, poverty, homeleness, alienation of my family and mow on disability for around 10 yrs ( I am guessing) I lose big chucks of time, In 2015 I found treament in New Orleans at a place called River Oaks Behavoral Hospitol. I was inpatient for 7 weeks nefore my insurance ran out. There I ecxperienced a feeling of safety for the first time iin my entire life. I experienced unconditional positive regard. I promply fell into parts. Pieces, parts, frags and little ones came forth in such a tidal wave, I literally flooded with feelings I could not name. One by one, Roxi, Jae, Sam, Tina, Pink, Sugar, Tommy, Tina, Tank , Spiritgirl, Drummerboy said hi, here we are. The therapys the provided I could not sit thru, I would bawl like a baby, want to freeze & shutdown, hide in the bushes outsode, I would rolladex looking like I had ADHD and it was all about who wanted to wear whst thdy wanted, eat whst they wanted, do what they wanted and get mote attention anypne could provide. Before I left We were presented with nrw worfs to express what we were experiencing. Trauma bond, trauma code, self harm, self medicating, unmanaged dissociation, ( what? Dissociation could be managed? Why woyld any do that? Made no sense) intamacy? Thete wete levals to intamacy? What? No means no, and we could learn to say no? There whete examples of ways people could covertly pressure unwanted sexual pressire? Like size? Like guilt? Lile shame? Like ruse? What? So much. Still after all this time we still are experiencimg unmananged dissocation and so many ways of survival. We ate tired. This body is 58. We do not know how old we are.
We did an ACES test. We habe all the aces. Our physical health is extensively bad, but we habe a part we call Tank. We have mo car, we are looking for anotjer place to live. We are scared, yet we are hopeful. We wish we vould find face to face IFS inpatient treatment. Something, weve been yrying to do it onour own for so long. We have names for futire chapters of a book wed loved to write, if we could focus long enough. The Valley of One. No Grandpas hete. The purple in between. Im not a dirtleg, dirtbag! So, yea We’ll try writing in the 3rd person. Everyone wants their own dam chapter! Unblending, ya right! Firefighters, protectors, the littles, the lurkers, the wise asses and the teenagers, the little guy that limes to take stuff apart, and who knows who else. Drama, let all unfold! I am blowing them all out of the water!
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